When I was young, there was a series of cartoons which were titled “Love is…..” They always focused on the simple things in life, and I loved them. I was reminded of this during the week as I went through a process of letting go to create more simplicity. The older I get, the more of a minimalist I become. Removing the clutter from our lives and our thinking allows us to feel lighter and happier.
This time of year is difficult for me. My birthday is approaching with memories of my partners terminal illness and my first birthday after 25 years, a few years ago, without him. It is nearly four years since he died. Yesterday it felt like it was time to let a little more of him go. I was removing items from my house that were full of memories of him. I am keeping only my most favourite things.
When our lives seemed cluttered and uncertain as a leader or in life, it is often difficult to connect to what is essential. There are three things which assist in creating simplicity:
- Letting Go – Stopping the ‘striving’ and intensity around the problem
- Being Authentic – Making sure we are whom we want to be in the situation, and we like our reasons in approaching the problem
- Calmness – Taking some deep breaths and relaxing, knowing that everything changes and we can choose our emotions by selecting our thinking
If we can create simplicity, we develop a sense of synergy within ourselves, and we allow our intuition to come through.
Fact-based decision making is critical – we need to understand the problem and the outcome we are seeking before we can implement great solutions. Over-analysis does indeed create paralysis though, and there is much power in allowing our intuition to help us to find a path forward.
Intuition is ‘’a process that gives us the ability to know something directly without analytic reasoning, bridging the gap between the conscious and nonconscious parts of our mind, and also between instinct and reason.’’
Intuition allows us to make leaps; those leaps enable us to use all of the parts of our brain, body, experience, knowledge, feelings and logic at once to propel us forward. The synergy between all these elements makes the total more significant than the sum of the parts, and we can get to extraordinary outcomes.
When I strip away all the clutter around my birthday and focus on simplicity and synergy, I remember that I have always had strawberries on my birthday cake. It is a family tradition, and I love it! I remember that my husband proposed to me last year on my birthday. Everything is ok. I can be me, I can let go, and I can be calm. I can feel in synergy and take pleasure in the simple things.
How about you? Do you feel in synergy with your life, your team and your business or purpose? How could you let go of some of those thoughts and emotions that are not where you want to go? Take some time to try this for yourself. We all deserve to live a simple life.